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Budget – First off, don’t break the bank trying to give her something that says that you love and know her; nobody will feel good about such a purchase! See what you, realistically, can afford and are comfortable spending and set that as your limit.
Gift Ideas – Have you got some sort of idea of what your special lady might be wishing for? If not, have you asked her? Does she like to give you a list or…have you tried to figure it out, on your own? The latter is what many girls/women prefer; it “says” that you made an effort to give her something that you know she would be pleased to receive!
Oftentimes, the items she points out, while you’re out on the town, or shares with you, whenever you’re together, would be good indicators of things that she enjoys and will give you plenty of ideas to choose from. Mostly, it is how well you have paid attention, during the times that she has shared, that show her how well you really know her and what she really likes, when it comes to gift-giving; so…make your best efforts to always be listening, attentively, and…take notes.
Surprises or Not – Does your special someone enjoy surprise gifts or does she prefer to have chosen an item, herself? This is quite important because…if the item that you give her, as a surprise, isn’t quite what she had hoped for, it’s almost a guarantee that it won’t be used! It’s difficult to buy the “perfect” gift, if you don’t know her tastes very well. Some of the categories that this might be the case in could be jewelry, perfume, handbags, electronic gadgets, or clothes… just to name a few.
What Type of Gift – Some girls like jewelry and perfume but you’d be surprised to discover how practical your girl might be. Again…it’s a matter of knowing her tastes and how particular she is about gifts. For instance, she may like kitchen gadgets or need some new string bikinis but…don’t let either be a Christmas gift…especially not the latter, at an extended family gathering! Surprise her with one of these types of gifts, that she has been either needing or wanting, some other time of the year; you’ll earn Brownie Points for having remembered and given it, then!
Has it been a hectic year and you, both, could use a break? Why not give her the gift of a mini-vacation, the week between Christmas and New Years when many get the week off. Oftentimes, just a couple of nights away can be enough time. Preparing for Christmas can be a very taxing time and a little rejuvenating alone time, with you, might be the best gift you could ever give her! Take her to a place that she has mentioned wanting to visit. Make sure to check her availability, first, before booking the trip, of course! A casual question of “So…what are we doing, after Christmas?” and “Just curious.” can be a good way to get beyond further questioning and ruining the Christmas surprise!
A Time and a Place – As mentioned, above, getting your girl her favorite string bikini underwear to open in front of an extended family gathering is not an ideal setting, so…choose the best time and place to offer your special gifts. Christmastime is also a time when many like to propose to their girl. As special of a time as it is, be sensitive to the fact that it is a very personal decision and choose a special, private spot that won’t be the kitchen or living room of a family gathering. Choose a setting that becomes the backdrop to one of the most memorable days in both of your lives. There will be time to share the happy news, later…whenever your proposal has been accepted!
Have a wonderful Holiday Season filled with happy memories that you helped create, partly, with your thoughtful, special gift(s)!
3 comments:
Sounds sound to me.
You're so right - when I was younger, I used to sweat this a lot, but it's just about paying attention. All the best gifts I've ever given have simply proven I was listening.
Thanks, Eo and emptyspaces. And, yes, it is quite amazing what can be accomplished when both parties listen; that's when "real" communication begins. :-D I'm glad that neither of you are "challenged" in the gift-giving department! :-D
Thanks to both of you for your support. I appreciate it. :-D
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